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Natural Family Planning and the Mother!

Sunday, May 13th, 2018

Nature intends for mother and baby to be one, a biological unit. Mothers who remain with their babies will find it easy to follow the ecological breastfeeding program. Nature rewards the ecological breastfeeding mother by providing many benefits to her, including natural child spacing. Any mother who is interested in natural mothering and its related child spacing effect should desire the oneness that nature intended between mother and child. In fact, such a mother soon discovers that she does not want to leave her baby; instead she makes every effort to have her baby with her no matter where she goes.

A nursing mother who loves and cares for her baby will experience a relationship that she may never have with other persons. As one mother told me, “This is the first time I ever felt truly needed, that I was irreplaceable.” This love relationship is built in naturally—the mother’s body is geared toward giving by the continuous production of milk. Likewise, breastfeeding hormones help her to feel more motherly. Nature has her own built-in laws for the child’s development, and today her ways are being discovered more and more by researchers in the field.

The World Health Organization described this oneness well: “Mothers and babies form an inseparable biological and social unit; the health and nutrition of one group cannot be divorced from the health and nutrition of the other.” Other researchers have described mother and infant as one biological system.

Mother-baby togetherness is the key to natural child spacing.
The practice of mother-baby togetherness has an impact on natural child spacing. The following example helps to make this point. A study conducted in the West African country of Rwanda discovered that there were no differences in the birth intervals of bottlefeeding mothers in the city compared to those in the rural areas. On the other hand, among breastfeeding mothers, there were significant differences. The city breastfeeding mothers were already developing patterns of separation from their babies; 75% of the city breastfeeding mothers conceived between 6 and 15 months postpartum. However, in the rural areas, the breastfeeding mothers still kept their babies with them all the time; 75% of the rural breastfeeding mothers conceived between 24 and 29 months postpartum. In this culture there were no contraceptives used or taboos against intercourse after childbirth. The researchers concluded that the only difference they could see between the two breastfeeding groups was the amount of physical contact the baby had with his mother.

The baby is important, but so is the mother.
A chief ingredient for a healthy start in life is the presence of a continuous loving relationship with one mother figure. Nature has arranged this type of care through the oneness of mother and child through breastfeeding. Contrary to the popular opinion that you will spoil your baby by responding promptly to his needs, we are now being told that you can’t give the baby too much love. Love him, enjoy him, meet his needs, and respond to his smiles, cries, and discomforts. Again, nature has already ensured that babies will receive this constant, individualized loving attention through the breastfeeding that only a mother can provide. Ecological breastfeeding provides lots of personal contact with the baby and is eminently well suited for taking care of baby’s nutritional and emotional needs. Mother and baby are one.

With breastfeeding this relationship becomes even more evident. Maria Montessori was a strong promoter of breast-milk-only for the first six months of life, very gradual weaning, and mother-baby inseparability during the early years. In fact, she recommended nursing for 1½ to 3 years. Why? Because “prolonged lactation requires the mother to remain with her child.”  She had it right back in 1949 when she wrote the first edition of The Absorbent Mind. Where would societies be today if parents had listened and followed her advice?
Sheila Kippley
Next week:  Mother and her Importance for a Healthy Society

Natural Family Planning with the Home Study Course

Sunday, March 25th, 2018

Below are comments from couples who have recently completed the home study course this year.

I am quite busy this time of year (college, wedding planning, graduate school applications, and moving!)  Thank you for leading me to the correct answer. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to complete this course; I am learning so much information that I have never been taught!

I learned more about my body than I ever knew before.  This type of information was not shared in my home or at school.  I had no idea how anything worked, and it actually brought me comfort to know things I was experiencing were normal (mucus).  I had heard of natural family planning once before but did not receive many details, so I was interested in learning more.  Learning that this method can be as effective as unnatural contraception, which is the method I was typically told to use – especially by my University, opened my eyes to this as a viable method of birth regulation (with a sufficiently serious reason of course.  Additionally, the line from Mrs. A struck me.  She stated there was nothing between them when taking part in the marriage act.  This caught my attention and made me think about how the marriage act cannot be truly an act of oneness with my spouse if there was something physically in between us (like a condom).  Finally, the ecological breastfeeding chapter provided me with knowledge and support for my own ideals of breastfeeding.  I especially enjoyed the comfort and connectedness part of it, as well as a viable option not to use a pacifier, which was a habit I had trouble getting away from as a child.

Did you gain new knowledge or benefit from taking this course? Yes! It was filled with very detailed information which will be so valuable going forward. Thank you!

We gained new knowledge in how natural family planning works and how it can benefit our relationship and our future children.

Thank you for all your patience with the technical difficulties and for all your work. This course has enriched our relationship with each other and with God.
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Information on taking the NFPI Home Study Course is available at the home page of NFPandmore.org.  Working with these couples as a volunteer is truly a rewarding experience..

Sheila Kippley
PS: My husband, John, is giving talks about Humanae Vitae this year to interested parishes, seminaries, and schools.  For information, contact him at nfpandmore@nfpandmore.org.

Chaste Natural Family Planning leads to a Culture of Life

Sunday, February 11th, 2018

1.There will be no freedom from the culture of death and fear without building a culture of life.

  1. There will be no culture of life without a stop to legalized abortion.
  2. There will be no stopping abortion without a widespread acceptance of chastity. 
  3. There will be no widespread acceptance of chastity outside of marriage without a widespread acceptance of chastity within marriage.
  4. There will be no acceptance of marital chastity without the rejection of unnatural forms of birth control, many of which can also cause early abortions.
  5. There will be no widespread rejection of unnatural forms of birth control without the widespread knowledge and practice of natural family planning.
  6. There will probably be very limited acceptance of chaste natural family planning unless it is taught in the context of authentic Christian discipleship.
  7. Widespread acceptance of chaste NFP will happen only when the clergy require couples to learn NFP—including ecological breastfeeding and the covenant meaning of the marriage act—as a normal part of preparation for Christian marriage.

Now THAT is something truly worth praying for, and Lent is a special time for prayer.
John F. Kippley