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Natural Family Planning: The Importance of the Mother to the Baby

Sunday, August 28th, 2016

One of the benefits of God’s plan for spacing babies with the right kind of breastfeeding is that the breastfeeding relationship keeps the mother with her baby.  I’d like to share some thoughts on this by Saint John Paul II.

On Human Work: 1981
“To take up paid work outside the home is wrong from the point of view of the good of society and of the family when it contradicts or hinders these primary goals of the mission of a mother.”
“Mothers have an irreplaceable role.”

Address to “Women, Wives, and Mothers,” Familia et Vita, January 1995.
“Women can never be replaced in  begetting and rearing children…  Women as mothers have an irreplaceable role.”
“The children also have a right to the care and concern of those who have begotten them, their mothers in particular.”

The Gospel of Life: 1995
Sincere gift of self by the mother: “daily heroism”  “brave mothers”  “heroic mothers” (86)
Baby: “Every human being” is “an icon of Jesus Christ.” (84)
“The family is the sanctuary of life.” (6, 11, 59, 88, 91, 92, 94)

May 12, 1995 address to scientists at Vatican breastfeeding conference.
“No one can substitute for the mother in this natural activity.”
“This natural activity benefits the child and helps to create the closeness and maternal bonding so necessary for healthy child development….So vital is this interaction between mother and child that my predecessor Pope Pius XII urged Catholic mothers, if at all possible, to nourish their children themselves (Oct. 26, 1941).”

Sheila:  God’s plan for spacing babies has many benefits.  Not only the spacing but also health and emotional benefits for both mother and child.  Let’s pray that our government and our Church with its Pope, cardinals, bishops, priests, and teachers will promote ecological breastfeeding because of these many benefits.

Sheila Kippley



Natural Family Planning: Ecological Breastfeeding and Bedsharing

Sunday, May 8th, 2016

Probably the most controversial aspect of Ecological Breastfeeding are the Fourth and Fifth Standards involving sleeping with your baby.  I understand the fears because I had those fears until I lay down for a short nap with my baby one afternoon on top of the bed.  Three hours later I woke up.  My baby was still latched on; my fears vanished.  Then I understood better why mothers around the world have shared sleep with their babies.   There are many benefits for bedsharing.

Bedsharing supports good breastfeeding.

Bedsharing is extremely important for breastfeeding amenorrhea and thus natural child spacing.  Babies nurse frequently and longer during the night when near mother.  You can’t get this pattern of nighttime breastfeeding when baby is not present to the mother.

Mothers and fathers get more rest with bedsharing, and babies benefit from the skin-to-skin contact with either parent during the night.

Babies are more settled and cry less with bedsharing.

Bedsharing helps to regulate baby’s temperature and breathing.  Think of mother’s breathing being like a “pacemaker” for her baby’s breathing.

Mothers are well rested in the morning due to bedsharing.  Breastfeeding is one job a mother can do well in her sleep.  Nor does she or the father have to get up at all.  I thoroughly enjoyed this benefit of feeling rested in the morning as a nursing mother.

Dr. Abraham B. Bergman, the original SIDS researcher who made SIDS known to the American public and was the first president of the National SIDS Foundation, says baby bedsharing is not dangerous. (October 2014)

Breastfeeding protects against SIDS, and breastfeeding babies usually end up sleeping on their backs during the night.  Lest we forget, SIDS was formerly called “crib death.”

IMPORTANT:  For safety guidelines on bedsharing, see “links” at the NFPI website.

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding

Natural Family Planning and Ecological Breastfeeding

Sunday, September 6th, 2015

Some mothers believe that you have to wear your baby all the time in order to space babies.  I make note to these mothers that wearing your baby is not one of the Seven Standards.

Wearing baby is a good practice for so many activities and can be done by the father as well.  I regret that today you see many parents with strollers and rarely do you see a parent with a baby carrier on their body. I loved various slings (front, back and hip) for walks, shopping and even occasionally when ironing or making dinner.  But indoors it was rare and for a short period of time.  I even used the infant seat the rare time mainly so baby could sit up and watch me.  You can have mother-baby togetherness in many ways.

That being said, I also believe it is good to let the baby be free to wiggle, move his arms and legs, etc. on the floor near mom.  I had a book by Bonnie Prudden on exercise for little ones and how it is healthy for babies and toddlers to be exposed to various activities.  She described physical activities for little ones that could be done in the home.

The key to the Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding is mother-baby togetherness and frequent and unrestricted nursing.  The main point here is that there are many ways to have mother-baby togetherness and, of course, baby carriers are certainly one way and a convenient way at times.

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding