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Natural Family Planning and the Cross

Sunday, April 13th, 2014

The axiom that a house divided against itself cannot stand applies in part to the failure of the local Church to incorporate natural family planning instruction into the work of evangelization.  Pope Paul VI, the author of Evangelii Nuntiandi (Evangelization in the Modern World), is also well known as the author of Humanae Vitae in which he proposed that followers of Christ may have to carry the burden of a large family or the cross of the chaste periodic abstinence required by systematic natural family planning.  Unfortunately, some of those who glory in calling themselves conservatives castigate systematic NFP as selfish, and those who glory in calling themselves liberal want a cross-less Christianity regarding marital sexuality.  

Both camps ignore how the right kind of NFP course can be a great agent of evangelization both within the Church and among truth-seeking non-Catholics.  Yes, we have seen truth-seeking anti-Catholics and even atheists approach and then enter the Church after having learned a complete form of systematic NFP, plus ecological breastfeeding, plus a covenant theology that places all of this in the context of Christian discipleship.

Also damaging to evangelization is that almost no one in the hierarchical Church seems to be doing anything to promote breastfeeding despite the fact that it is the most charitable thing a mother can do for her baby.  Doctor Ruth Lawrence, an expert in this area, sums it up succinctly:  “Breastfeeding is the most precious gift a mother can give her infant.  If there is illness or infection, it may be a life-saving gift.  If there is poverty, it may be the only gift.”  

So when are Catholic parishes and missions all throughout the world going to be known as places that encourage and support breastfeeding?  And if they really want to evangelize, when are they going to promote and teach ecological breastfeeding?  Mothers who follow its Seven Standards, which allow baby’s frequent and unrestricted suckling, truly DO experience a delayed return of fertility—–on average about 14 to 15 months.  Much more on this at the NFPI website.

John F. Kippley

Natural family planning: Mother and Baby as One

Sunday, April 6th, 2014

Most people probably do not think of natural family planning by this rule: Be one with your baby after birth.  But when I gave talks on natural child spacing for many years in the NFP movement, my main talk was on mother-baby togetherness, the key to natural child spacing.  A mother who remained with her baby was likely to find it easier to nurse her baby as needed.  In addition, this togetherness makes it obvious that the baby needs the presence of the mother as much as he or she needs mother’s food.  With ecological breastfeeding, this biological oneness becomes evident.  In addition, such mothering makes the mother feel valued.  She is extremely important to her baby and the baby will move in excitement as the mother offers her breast.  He will cry when she leaves the room.  He wants to be in her presence.  Many breastfeeding moms learn this.  The baby becomes strongly attached to his or her mother and then to the next significant or intimate other—the dad.

Below are some comments from mothers about this mother-baby attachment.
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My son doesn’t have an object he’s attached to either, just my husband and me. It’s really interesting to watch his attachment grow to my husband now that he’s getting older. My son got a Charlie Brown book for Christmas (Happiness is a Warm Blanket); it’s about Linus’ grandmother wanting him to give up his blanket. At one point Linus says, “This blanket is the only real security I have.” I think that’s one of the saddest things I’ve ever read!
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None of my children have ever had a security object. The closest my children have come is my oldest when I allowed thumbsucking before nursing on demand. When looking for comfort or help, my children seek me or my husband as well. When looking at other young kids I know, they are usually attached to some object (blanket, sippy cup, pacifier, doll/teddy bear, etc) and I notice the children do not seek help from their parents. If the parents do step in, the parent usually directs the child to the security object. I’ve had a blanket left at my house, and when the parent came to pick it up the next day they mentioned their child was crying and wouldn’t sleep all night without it.
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I’m surrounded by many women who formula-feed. Some have breastfed for a short time but none of them made it to the minimum one year recommendation. All but one weaned before 8 months age; one did not even nurse a week. All of them have said one of the following statements regarding breastfeeding to me: “It was too hard.”   “I wanted my body back.”   “I needed a break.”
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I realize there are very devoted formula-fed moms out there but I’m surrounded in real life by families who formula-feed and seem very detached from their kids. They use a “crying-it-out” method and nearly all their kids are sleeping through the night within 6 weeks of being born (whereas an eco-breastfeeding mom night nurses sometimes for years). They leave their infants in car seats/swings/bouncy seats with a bottle propped up, and they seem to be oblivious to their children’s cries or just pop in the pacifier.
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I once watched a friend panic as her daughter screamed and cried because they lost her pacifier. Nothing the mother could do for her child helped; her child was more attached to that object than her mother. I know two Catholic forumula-fed larger families and it seems the older children do more of the parenting with the babies than the parents. I’m not against children helping out, but this goes beyond that to where I’ve seen siblings rooming in with newborns to tend to the waking baby even though the siblings have school and work the next day.  Maybe that’s typical but it seems odd to me.
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This type of parenting looks much different and less demanding on the parents than eco-breastfeeding because a lot of the child’s needs are met by objects or other people (or ignored). I hope this is just unique to me and the people I know, but it’s hard to shake this image of formula-feeding when this is constantly what I see among friends and family. In comparison, I have some secular friends who are more in line with eco-breastfeeding and the differences between the families are night and day.
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I have noticed that none of my 6 children have been attached to objects, like a blanket, stuffed animal, pacifier, etc. My theory is that they have all been attached to myself or my husband and so they didn’t need an object to latch on to.

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SHEILA:  I took care of a formula-fed baby only once for a few hours.  The only thing I noticed was the unpleasant smell when the baby spit up.  You do not get this smell from breast milk.  We liked to camp when we had children and camping was something we could afford in those days. Breastfeeding made camping in a tent easy.  I’d have baby zipped up in my warm jacket cuddled right next to me during the night.  I have done volunteer work, hiked, shopped, taught tennis, NFP and breastfeeding, taught dental hygiene to kindergarten kids and mothering/breastfeeding classes to high school kids, gone to church and learned to do anything I wanted to do — taking my breastfed baby or older nursing child with me.

To be fair to formula-feeding mothers, there are the rare few who are the only ones that feed the baby.  I heard of such a mother when I started a LLL group in Canada. She later breastfed her next baby and said it was like not having a baby in the house.  She had a very contented baby.

With my first baby I was so shy that I left the room when I was at a LLL meeting and had to nurse my baby.  If I, as shy as I was about nursing in public, could learn how to nurse modestly anywhere, I think any mother can learn to do likewise.  I have had someone ask me about the baby completely unaware that I was nursing! Reflecting, I think one reason I really promoted breastfeeding and natural child spacing is because I found breastfeeding to be such an easy lifestyle as a mother.  My husband also was and still is a strong promoter of ecological breastfeeding.

Some mothers have criticized me for talking about breastfeeding in such a positive tone because of their difficulties, but I am simply grateful and want to share.  First, I attended LLL meetings with my first pregnancy and got off to the right start.  I was very grateful for LLL in those days and for the two doctors (my ObGyn and the pediatrician) who supported my exclusive breastfeeding.  Secondly, I also was never exposed in those early days to the cry-it-out-control philosophies for which I’m grateful. Thirdly, if I had an unhappy or negative experience with breastfeeding, I probably would have never written my books.

I still can’t understand the Church’s silence on this issue since family planning is brought up often when discussing Church teaching.  Unfortunately, when natural family planning discussions occur among the laity or NFP teachers, ecological breastfeeding is usually ignored.  The research was there when I got interested in the 60s.  We published our research in 1972 and 1989 and Dr. William Taylor published his research in the 90s.

I encourage our readers to promote natural child spacing to local priests, bishops and missionaries whom they support. God does have a plan for mother and baby so that married couples will have some spacing between the births of their children, a plan that also protects mother and baby from diseases associated with non-breastfeeding substitutes.  And the best part is that mothers enjoy being one with their baby.

Sheila Kippley

Natural Family Planning: Moms Describe Ecological Breastfeeding.

Sunday, January 26th, 2014

The effectiveness of breastfeeding for suppressing ovulation seems directly related to the amount of food a baby gets from other sources.  In our culture, in the land of canned formula and readily available baby foods of all kinds, a baby is frequently given bottles in addition to nursing.  He is started out on solid food after a month or six weeks.  It is important to note that the mothers who endorse breastfeeding as a method of spacing babies give nothing but breast milk for a period of six months, and then, while starting the baby on other foods, continue to breastfeed him for 10 or 15 or more months…Breastfeeding is a means to be considered by couples in our culture who would welcome eight children in 16 years rather than eight children in eight years. (Mrs. James Kenny, Wiesbaden, Germany, America, February 29, 1964)  This was the first article on natural child spacing   that impressed my husband. After he read this letter when I was pregnant in 1964, he said: “Sheila, you’re going to breastfeed…aren’t you?”  This was the first time I considered this issue!

Without any effort on my part, my first three children were spaced 4.5 and 3.3 years. Thanks to ecological breastfeeding. I typically enjoy lactational amenorrhea for 27-29 months postpartum.

We sort of used eco-breastfeeding, but didn’t stick to all the rules 100% (mainly dropped the daily nap one).  We didn’t use anything else to space our two children and they turned out to be 25 months apart in age.  Now my baby is 18 months and my fertility and periods still have not returned.

I have eco-breastfed 6 out of 8 children.  Eco-breastfeeding is really not that complicated a thing.  You feed your kid on demand and keep them with you to facilitate that as much as possible and you don’t substitute mother care with various gadgets (pacifiers, formula, early solds to supposedly to make them sleep more at night, and you avoid letting them cry it out).  Frankly, pretend you are too poor to do anything else and you’re probably on the right track.  Heck, we WERE too poor and that’s always just what we did.

I have been promoting attachment parenting (AP) and ecological breastfeeding by word of mouth.  I find myself sharing bits and pieces with friends and family. I have one friend who did quite a turn-around with my encouragement. Her siblings either did not nurse at all or nursed part time for a few months. They also leave their babies for “vacations” when their babies are just a year old. (What kind of vacation is that anyway? You’d have to take me kicking and screaming before I left my baby– even if I wasn’t nursing!) But my friend spent so much time watching me with my babies and listening to me talk about AP that she now “rebels” and nurses her babies in her bed for at least a year and never leaves them overnight.

I am currently nursing my 17 month old without a return of my periods.

Breastfeeding has a very definite effect on child spacing.  With my bottlefed children I conceived again at 8 months after childbirth despite other contraceptives.  It has been 15 months since the last baby was born.  No period yet.

My son nurses on and off during the nights.  He is 22 months old and I have not had a period yet.

I thank you for the positive effect you’ve had on my mothering skills.  I nursed my first baby for 4 months and quit because of the inconvenience.  I nursed my second baby for 22 months because it was so very convenient.

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding