Archive for January, 2010

The Present Culture

Sunday, January 31st, 2010

What you see at present in Western culture is fearful. Ordinary folks feel compelled to install outside security lights and indoor security systems. A culture once marked by respect for life and purity has become degraded. The daily news provides every thinking person with ample evidence that the family, the Church, and traditional morality are taking a beating. In short, the culture is in crisis.

At the heart of the downward spiral of morality has been the acceptance of a sexual revolution “based on the logic of birth control instead of the logic of human nature,” as secular humanist Walter Lippmann described it in 1929. The sexual theorists of the early 20th century equated human happiness with unlimited sexual pleasure, and they set about to capture the American heart and soul with their ideas. Their hook was unlimited sex. Their line was that unlimited sex and very few children would make happy families. Their sinker was contraception, called by Lippmann “the most revolutionary practice in the history of sexual morals.” They promoted the immorality of serial bigamy as “progressive,” but they were clueless about what happens when sex is idolized and married couples are encouraged to take apart the marriages that God has put together.

Gradually, the American public bought it—hook, line and sinker, and today American culture shows the effects. The organized promotion of contraception has not brought marital happiness but has been accompanied by a 500% increase in the divorce rate. Out-of-wedlock pregnancies have not only greatly increased but have become socially acceptable. The jails are full of men who were deprived of their God-given right to have their natural father in the home. Secular leaders offer no hope, only more police, bigger jails, and higher taxes to pay for them.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Next week:  For a Better Future

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality (Ignatius)

The Mission of NFP International

Sunday, January 24th, 2010

The primary mission of NFP International is to promote and teach Natural Family Planning. This includes ecological breastfeeding, systematic NFP, marital chastity, and the call to generosity in having children and raising them in the ways of the Lord. A secondary mission is to uphold traditional Christian teaching about love, marriage and sexuality and to provide materials that people can use to improve their spiritual lives.

We seek to accomplish this mission through this website and volunteer teachers.

Our service area is the world. At present, anyone in the world who has access to the Internet and can read English at the 10th grade level can teach themselves how to practice NFP from the NFPI manual, Natural Family Planning: The Complete Approach, available both in print and online. We recognize that most people prefer to learn from face to face instruction, and thus we encourage the development of networks of volunteer teachers in countries throughout the world. The International Mission statement describes the NFPI efforts in Eastern Europe that still suffers the effects of decades of Communist rule.

Next week: The Present Culture

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality (Ignatius)

1. Lack of Breastfeeding in Haiti? 2. Menopause: Does anything go?

Sunday, January 17th, 2010

1.   ABC World News this evening (1/17/10) showed a Haitian woman who had just delivered a baby.  She and her friends complained that she had no milk for her baby.  She was amply endowed and was not holding the baby.  The big question is why in a poverty stricken area is not every mother breastfeeding.   Why have not the relief organizations and missionaries promoted breastfeeding?

2. When a woman is menopausal, some couples think that any kind of sexual activity is a moral option.  But menopause does not change the meaning of the marriage act. 
 
A woman asks us:
       I am no longer of child-bearing age,and I wanted to know if it was ok for me as a wife to perform oral sex on my husband?   I am past menopause and some times it still causes me pain to have intercourse even when I use jellies and creams for dryness.  I’m sorry for the embarressing question. 
   

John responded:
       I assume that by oral sex you meant your oral stimulation of your husband that brings him to ejaculation outside of your vagina.  That is still masturbation and is immoral.  While it no longer has the effect of contraception, it still destroys the symbolism of the marriage act, the mutual gift of self in the act of genital-genital union.  In marriage we are given the right to engage in that act that of its very nature is oriented toward the procreation of children.  So even if you are no longer capable of providing an egg, the marriage act is still oriented toward the procreation of children and the bonding of the spouses.  
       From a practical perspective, an ample amount of KY jelly can or should provide ample lubrication.  Make sure that it is sufficiently applied and into the full area where you experience dryness.
       If by “oral sex” you mean oral-genital stimulation to bring your husband to an erection sufficient for genital-genital intercourse, that is morally okay.  In fact, it can be an act of charity if he is otherwise impotent.
       If you can help this organization, we will appreciate it.  Just go to the “Please donate” tab in the “And more” box on the home page.  Both prayers and pennies are needed. 
 
John F Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality (Ignatius)