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2. Natural Family Planning and Sex and the Marriage Covenant

Sunday, July 19th, 2020

The core statement
The core statement of the covenant theology of sexuality is simplicity itself:  “Sexual intercourse is intended by God to be at least implicitly a renewal of the marriage covenant.”

It can be embellished slightly by rephrasing the last part of the statement:  “Sexual intercourse is intended by God to be at least implicitly a renewal of the faith and love and unreserved gift of self pledged by the couple when they entered the covenant of marriage.”

It can be rephrased further in secular terms: “Sexual intercourse is meant to be a renewal of the couple’s own marriage covenant, a symbol of their commitment of marital love.”

Or, in its most secular form: “Sexual intercourse is meant to symbolize the self-giving commitment of marriage.”

Secular phrasing is helpful for conveying the idea to students in schools where religion is not taught and/or where it cannot be taught that sexual intercourse is truly a marriage act and is honest and finds its meaning only within marriage. As an aside, I want to respond to the easily imagined challenge that this concept could not be taught in an American public school because it might be seen as reflecting a religious belief. The response is threefold.  1) Most just laws reflect the natural moral law that has been codified in the Ten Commandments, so there is no difference in teaching that man is not meant to steal from others and teaching that man is not meant to have sex outside of marriage.  2) The ordinary language of cultures all over the world—both in time and in place—supports the notion that sexual intercourse is meant to be a marital act. Any culture that has a taboo on adultery or that sees pre-marital sex by engaged couples as less good than marital sex supports the notion that sex is meant to symbolize the commitment of marriage.  3) Such basic non-sectarian norms of human behavior simply must be taught at every level and place of education, or alleged education is simply not human education, and that, of course, is the problem with much education today.

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant

 

1. Natural Family Planning and Sex and the Marriage Covenant

Saturday, July 18th, 2020

This is the first of a series of blogs for NFP Awareness Week, July 19-25.  The contents of the blogs are short sections from Sex and the Marriage Covenant: A Basis for Morality (SMC).  The book started with a 1967 article I wrote supporting the Received Teaching in Casti Connubii (Dec. 31, 1930), an article which forms Chapter 1 of SMC.  That article, Holy Communion: Eucharistic and Marital is also at the website.

In writing SMC, I reflected on the two realities that (1) marriage is the result of unreserved giving—for better and for worse—and (2) contraceptive intercourse is sex with very serious reservation—for better but positively excluding the imagined worse of possible pregnancy.  Marriage comes into being by a couple unreservedly entering God’s covenant of marriage; contraceptive intercourse contradicts the very essence of the marriage covenant.  From these considerations I developed the covenant theology of sexuality described in this book.

I was also appalled by the “arguments” people were using to “justify” using unnatural methods of birth control.  Otherwise sane people were saying things such as, “It must be okay to use the Pill because God gave us the brains to make it.”  Christians who, if asked, would remember the words of Christ about the necessity of carrying the cross daily were arguing that because periodic abstinence was a daily cross for some, it therefore couldn’t be the will of Christ! Such nonsense and other more serious questions called for a response, and Part IV of the present book deals with such issues.

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant

Natural Family Planning and Humanae Vitae 17 and Sodomy

Saturday, July 27th, 2019

The text of Humanae Vitae 17 from the Vatican.va website with my boldface:

Consequences of Artificial Methods

  1. Responsible men can become more deeply convinced of the truth of the doctrine laid down by the Church on this issue if they reflect on the consequences of methods and plans for artificial birth control. Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beings—and especially the young, who are so exposed to temptation—need incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law. Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.

“Finally, careful consideration should be given to the danger of this power passing into the hands of those public authorities who care little for the precepts of the moral law. Who will blame a government which in its attempt to resolve the problems affecting an entire country resorts to the same measures as are regarded as lawful by married people in the solution of a particular family difficulty? Who will prevent public authorities from favoring those contraceptive methods which they consider more effective? Should they regard this as necessary, they may even impose their use on everyone. It could well happen, therefore, that when people, either individually or in family or social life, experience the inherent difficulties of the divine law and are determined to avoid them, they may give into the hands of public authorities the power to intervene in the most personal and intimate responsibility of husband and wife.”

Good books and many lectures have focused on the four boldfaced phrases above. The Pope was scorned for these predictions in 1968 but history has proved that he was indeed a prophet.

There is, however, a significant omission that is highly relevant to the sexual Scandal so publicized since 2002.  The Pope makes no reference to sodomy.  This is surprising for three reasons.  First, when the Anglicans were debating marital contraception in 1930, their conservative bishops warned that the acceptance of contraception would lead to the acceptance of sodomy.  How right they were; they now have bishops in same-sex marriages. Second, Fr. John Ford, SJ, a member of the papal birth control commission, had written about the Anglican discussion in a book on marriage morality.  Third, the Minority or the birth control commission clearly warned, as the conservative Anglicans had done, that the acceptance of marital contraception could not say “NO” to sodomy.  The Majority members replied that they did not accept sodomy, but that was only their personal preference.  They could not show that the logic of accepting contraception would not also allow sodomy.

The logic becomes clear if you ask yourself some basic questions.  1. Who put together in one act what we commonly call “making love” and “making babies”?  A theist has to answer, “God Himself.”  2.  What is contraception except the studied effort to take apart what God Himself has put together in the human sexual act?  That’s precisely what every form of contraceptive behavior is.  Thus the acceptance of marital contraception is not just the acceptance of a behavior.  It also entails the acceptance of the principle that modern man and woman can take apart what God has put together in the area of love, marriage and sexuality.  There is no question: the dissent from Humanae Vitae opened the door to the acceptance of sodomy.  In fact, that dissent opened the door to the acceptance of any imaginable sexual behavior between parties of legal age and mutual consent.

This is certainly not a secret.  In 1971, a theological journal published an article that showed that the decision-making principles of the dissenters could not say NO to spouse swapping,  And in 1977 a group of dissents published a book in which they confirm what I have written here.

Please pray for the bishops of the Church Universal that ALL of them soon preach and teach what the Lord Jesus teaches about marriage and which applies just as much to the marriage act as to the covenant of marriage: “What God has put together, let no one take apart.“

John F. Kippley
Sex and the Marriage Covenant