Archive for the ‘Morality’ Category

Modesty and Chastity

Sunday, May 4th, 2014

Maybe one reason for the idea that most women are considered to be sex objects is the way that too many women dress.  Both men and women wear shorts in the summer, but men typically wear knee-length shorts.  Women — well, it seems that lots of them can’t get them any shorter.

Men and women play basketball and volleyball.  Look at the difference in dress.  So as long as lots of women dress in such a way that draws public attention to their private parts, it is hardly surprising that lots of men think that such dress suggests a lustful willingness to get sexually involved.  I don’t buy the alleged need for more skin exposure for proper ventilation.  Male basketball players used to wear shorter shorts, but now they are knee-length.  I suspect a major reason is comfort — when you’re sweaty, it’s more comfortable to have long shorts especially when sitting on the bench.

Modesty has traditionally been considered the handmaid to chastity.

John Kippley

Natural Family Planning: Morality and the Right to Know

Sunday, September 8th, 2013

I think we do a disservice to anyone interested in NFP if we avoid Catholic teaching on this issue.  You do not have to present a “theology of the body.”  It may be helpful to remember that when the Pope wrote his Letter to Families in 1994, ten years after he completed his TOB lectures, he did NOT suggest to his intended audience of ordinary laity that they study his 129 lectures.  Instead he urged them to remember that the marriage act out to be a renewal of their marriage covenant (section 12).  He also reminded them that marriage is for family.

Basic Catholic teaching is simple and makes good sense.  Every human person, not just Catholics, has a God-given right to hear it.  The right kind of NFP course provides an excellent way to share this part of the truth.

Further, couples have a God-given right to know all the common symptoms of fertility.  They should not have to take another course– at more time and more expense– to find out about the value of the temperature or the mucus or the cervix.

John F. Kippley
NFP International
Right to know series ongoing currently at www.johnkippley.com

Sex and the Marriage Covenant

Sunday, July 7th, 2013

Sex and the Marriage Covenant by Dr. Pravin Thevathasan of the UK

The thesis of this wonderful book is that God intends the sexual act to be an implicit renewal of the marriage covenant.  Marriage takes place when a couple enter God’s covenant of marriage.  And so, the marriage covenant will always determine the morality of every sexual act.

Why is this book so important?  Because even orthodox Catholics are uncertain why the Church teaches what She does with regard to human sexuality in general and contraception in particular. As with John Paul II, Kippley gives us biblical and personalist reasons why the Church teaches what She does.

Kippley shows us that the teaching of “Humanae Vitae” is both biblical and personalist and he demonstrates that, with “Humanae Vitae“, there is something deeper going on than dissent from Church teaching: the truth and meaning of human sexuality is itself now questioned.

Kippley proposes a coherent argument in favour of a covenant theology of marriage and human sexuality. For the act of sexual intercourse to be good, the man and woman must enter the marriage covenant together, their sexual act ought to express the covenant and there must be an implicit renewal of the covenant by means of the marriage act.  This is different from saying that the couple must intend procreation every time.  Rather, both the unitive and procreative goods of the marriage act ought always to be respected.

As with John Paul II, Kippley argues that any form of sexual exploitation in marriage is always wrong. Fornication and adultery are to be condemned because there is no valid marriage covenant to renew. Contraception means sex with reservation and it therefore contradicts the covenant to love without reservation.

The chapter on conscience, a much misunderstood concept, is invaluable as is the superb chapter on hard cases.

In many ways, this work complements the teaching of John Paul.  It is an excellent resource on marriage and human sexuality and it is entirely loyal to the teaching of the Church.
Sex and the Marriage Covenant reviewed by Dr. Pravin Thevathasan, Catholic Medical Quarterly, UK.