Archive for 2008

Why practice ecological breastfeeding?

Sunday, November 16th, 2008

Why do mothers practice ecological breastfeeding?
   The primary reason is that eco-breastfeeding normally gives babies and mothers alike more of the dose-related blessings of breastfeeding.  It does this by maintaining the milk supply for an extended time and by suppressing menstruation.                                     
   A second reason is the religious conviction that God Himself created woman and baby in such a way as to enjoy these benefits.  Many who share this conviction practice ecological breastfeeding because they believe it is God’s own plan for baby care and baby spacing that He “revealed” in the Book of Nature.
   A third reason to practice eco-breastfeeding is to accept the natural infertility that God has built into this natural form of baby care. In our writings and online manual you will be reading so much about the extended infertility of eco-breastfeeding that it may seem that we are making that the primary reason for this kind of baby care.  Not so.
   In summary, I see three reasons why mothers practice eco-breastfeeding: practical health reasons, religious conviction, and natural infertility.

Next week: Scriptural Mothering

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor, 2008
Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing, 2008, classic edition
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood, 2005
www.nfpandmore.org

Eco-Breastfeeding: Does It Work?

Sunday, November 9th, 2008

Yes, it does.  Eco-breastfeeding is a wonderful way to space the births of your children naturally. Below, some express their views on natural child spacing.  These comments illustrate that ecological breastfeeding should be part of all natural family planning instruction.

“Our first three children came in three and a half years.  I remember the night I sat on my couch with a screaming infant, up for the third time in two hours, feeding him a bottle. I said out loud, with tears streaming down my face from exhaustion, ‘There has to be a better way to take care of my babies. It shouldn’t be this hard!’  I breastfed our third child for 25 months and fertility returned at 19 months postpartum.  I am still nursing my 18 month old and have not had a cycle yet.  I have to wonder if the NFP movement is trying to make sure they don’t make waves for those mothers who go back to work not out of necessity but out of want.  I heard a priest in a homily say that 90% of Catholics contracept.  90%.  My jaw hit the floor.  That says a lot about NFP, eco-breastfeeding, and Catholic families today.  Continue your work despite the roadblocks. There are those of us who are listening.”

“I have a 13 month old daughter.  We are eco-breastfeeders, although until I read about eco-breastfeeding at your website I didn’t realize that’s what we are doing!  I just did what felt natural and my husband is extremely supportive.  We did use a pacifier but not really to pacify as it were.  My daughter was very playful right from birth and sucking the pacifier was like a game to her.  We didn’t really use it when she was upset or cuddly.  Even with the use of a pacifier I have remained infertile or not resumed menses.  I am breastfeeding very frequently and I notice culturally it can be intimidating when others are unsure as to why you always use the breast to comfort. I always joke I will be the one weaning from breastfeeding, not my daughter, because it has been such a wonderful experience so far.”

“I am SUCH a better parent because of ecological breastfeeding.  It’s the BEST way to raise a child, if possible!!  Sorry if I offended anyone by saying that.  This age is so funny.  If we speak the truth that one thing is better than something else, people try to quiet us, claiming that we are being judgmental or narrow-minded.” 

“I don’t blame my Jewish friends for feeling overwhelmed after having 2 babies in one year and then getting on the pill for 5. It is extremely overwhelming. I do wonder though why we don’t learn the natural method for child spacing in school, in seminary, in kallah classes, etc. Why is it such a big secret? Why is it that when I tell this to my friends their eyes open wide and they say ‘Really? You spaced your babies without taking the pill!?’  Yes! Indeed, I used the inborn, natural, G-d given ability to nurse my babies so that Hashem can give me that space so I don’t have to use outside forces to prevent pregnancies.  I don’t think we were meant to have our babies a year apart; I do think we were meant to nurse.”

“Thank you for such a wonderful clearinghouse of information.  Now I have a site I can share with people who don’t understand why I nurse on demand or breastfeed my children beyond a year. I call it God Family Planning, and it has been a blessing in my life….Ecological breastfeeding proved to be a great way of naturally spacing children.”

“I was 25 at the birth of my first child and am now 34.  With eco-breastfeeding, my children are spaced 2.5 to 3 years apart.  I have not needed to use any other method of NFP to space
my children.”

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor, 2008
Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing, 2008, classic edition
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood, 2005
www.nfpandmore.org

Natural Family Planning International website

Sunday, November 2nd, 2008

What keeps us going?
At several conferences during October, people approached us with surprise that we are no longer with CCL but have started NFP International.  Then they would ask about the differences between the two organizations.  Some may have wondered, and some of you may wonder, why we didn’t just quit after our separation in 2003 from the Couple to Couple League, an organization we founded in 1971.  Wasn’t it time to relax?  After all, we had spent 32 years promoting eco-breastfeeding as a form of natural family planning, the covenant theology of sexuality (a busy man’s theology of the body), and a sympto-thermal method which taught all the fertility signs and different rules for different situations.  We could have quit, but then we realized that CCL was changing or dropping what we brought to the League.  Even CCL called their changes an “extreme makeover.”  Because of this, we felt called to start NFP International to keep alive what we had started.
    One of the things that keeps us going is positive feedback. In this blog, we share some of the feedback that encourages us to continue.  We have offered free NFP instruction via our online manual and will continue to do so.  What gives us happiness is that the free online manual and other offerings at the website are being helpful to others, as you will see from the quotes below.

“I just wanted to say thank you for keeping up the website and for writing the Art of NFP. I got the book through CCL’s home study course, 6 months or so before they switched to the new student guide. I’ve since purchased the student guide because I wanted to know what was in it. I’ve thought time and again how glad I was that I got the old book when I learned.  I just feel like there is so much more information.  And the emphasis on the moral aspects have been important to me as I have tried to expose many of my friends to NFP, many of whom already use artificial birth control.  I’m really glad to have found this website.  It’s a great reference and being able to download the guide and charts for free is a major plus for financially struggling newlyweds.  You are reaching younger Catholics and providing us with the resources necessary to reach out to our friends.”

“I just wanted to write a quick note to say thank you for the website.  It is very helpful for those of us who need a refresher course on NFP, and so easy to access and read.  So thank you very much.”

“I am a Natural Family Planning Coordinator for our diocese.  We have too few teachers and too few students. I have received inquiries about classes but the couples would often be too far from me or one of our other teachers.  I find myself frequently referring couples to your website.” 

“I will download the manual.  Thank you very much for your help.  God bless you too for having this site and promoting this beautiful alternative to other methods that are not healthy (for the spirit, body or mind).”

“I’m new at NFP. I didn’t practice ecological breastfeeding/NFP with my daughter and got pregnant with our son when our daughter was 6 months old.  I’m still nursing my son who is 13 months old and JUST got my cycle back. I’ve been charting for a week now and I’m loving this. So many of my friends use medical ways to control their fertility. I feel it is so harmful to the body.  I’m so thankful for groups like this and glad I googled NFP!”

Next week: Comments on ecological breastfeeding as a form of NFP.  Kudos to Donna-Marie Cooper O’Boyle for her book The Domestic Church in which she relates how she spaced her babies through breastfeeding and writes that ecological breastfeeding is a form of natural family planning.  In her book, she recommends Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood for the spiritual and physical aspects of breastfeeding.

Sheila Kippley
The Seven Standards of Ecological Breastfeeding: The Frequency Factor, 2008
Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing
, 2008, classic edition
Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood, 2005
www.nfpandmore.org