Archive for 2013

Criticism of Natural Family Planning (NFP)

Sunday, August 25th, 2013

A friend recently forwarded to us an article about which someone else had already commented “This says it all.”  The article was quite critical of several aspects of the NFP movement, including the whole idea of using NFP for anything but a most serious reason.  John replied as follows.

“No, this article does not say it all.  It makes no distinction between the NFP providers who fit its descriptions and those who don’t.  It says absolutely nothing about ecological breastfeeding as God’s own plan for spacing babies.  And its arithmetic is faulty.  Without eco-breastfeeding and without any systematic NFP, the fertile couple who marry in their early twenties will have 18 to 20 children not 8 to 10.  I can remember too well in the early Sixties the 30 year old mother with seven children asking me, as the parish lay evangelist, what they were supposed to do for the next 15 years of her fertility.  She already had bulging varicose veins.  At the time I could only mumble something about calendar rhythm, and I didn’t even know much about that.

Young couples have a right to hear the full story which includes Humanae Vitae 10 and 16 and its call to generosity, the ordinary obligation to do what’s best for your children—–which certainly includes eco-breastfeeding, all the signs of fertility so that they can exercise their right to make an informed decision, and Catholic teaching on marital chastity so that “NFP” couples do not delude themselves into thinking that oral sodomy and mutual masturbation during the fertile time are okay alternatives to the marriage act.” (John Kippley)

Sheila Kippley

Prayer before Mass

Sunday, August 18th, 2013

Introduction: Some years ago a priest would regularly remind our morning-Mass congregation that every Mass is an act of adoration, reparation, thanksgiving and petition.  It seemed like a good idea to make those intentions more explicit in our own thoughts, so we recite the following prayer while traveling to Mass.

Heavenly Father, we offer You this Mass today in praise and adoration of the Godhead—Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

We offer this Mass in reparation for our own sins and for those of each member of our family and extended families, and for all the sins committed against the Sacred Heart of Jesus and the Immaculate Heart of Mary.

We offer this Mass in thanksgiving for the whole work of creation and redemption—for the work of the prophets, for the special work of John the Baptist, for your infinite love for us, for sending your divine Son to save us, for everything that Jesus said and did and taught us by word and by example, for all of his miracles and for giving us His body and blood, soul and divinity in the Holy Eucharist, for his suffering and for dying for us upon the cross, for his glorious resurrection and ascension into heaven, for the outpouring of the gifts of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost, for the gift of the Church, for the priest who will celebrate this Mass, and for all the priests who will celebrate Mass this day, especially those who celebrate Mass in faith and obedience and with reverence.

We offer this Mass in thanksgiving for every personal blessing You have given us—for the gift of the families we were brought up in, for the educations we received, for our providential meeting and marriage, for each of our children and their spouses and for each one of our grandchildren, for the blessing of excellent health and medical care almost all of the time, for the health problems that make us appreciate normal good health all the more, and for the healings that you have wrought in ourselves and in others for whom we have been asked to pray.

We thank you also for the breastfeeding and covenant and rosary insights, and for those who have helped us share those gifts with others and for all those who have been helped in anyway by those gifts.  We thank you for all our benefactors.

We offer this Mass in solemn petition for authentic reform and renewal in the Church, for all the conversions needed in ourselves, our children and their families, for a rebirth of modesty and chastity, for a stop to contraception and sodomy and abortion, and for a culture of life.

We offer this Mass for the total welfare of our family and all our benefactors and for the continuation of good health, for the healing of all those for whom we’ve been asked to pray, for our pastor and his efforts to evangelize his parish and for all the needs of our parish.

Sheila and John Kippley

Breastfeeding and Theology of the Body

Sunday, August 11th, 2013

What others are saying….

The Theology of the Body is most often applied to the relationship between man and woman, but it also applies in a special way to the nursing relationship between a mother and her baby.  Through the act of breastfeeding, a mother gives of her very self to her baby, giving not only food but love and comfort as well.  This giving relationship reflects the donative meaning of the body.  Our bodies make sense only in light of giving them and using them for others.  And a nursing mother constantly gives her body — her arms, her breasts, her eyes — to her baby.  She is rewarded when her baby begins to smile at her, caress her, and even kick with joy as she prepares to nurse him or her….
The delicate interplay of nutrition, love, and comfort involved when a mother nurses her baby can also provide the benefit of natural postpartum infertility.  There is a form of Natural Family Planning called Ecological Breastfeeding, or eco-breastfeeding.  Eco-breastfeeding is, in fact, the original form of NFP, which often kept the birth interval at 3-5 years in primitive societies.

Maureen Armendariz
NFPI Teacher
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A mother writes:  I read Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood about a year ago and it brought so much peace as it reaffirmed my beliefs about the importance of this bond. Lately I have been trying to research my vocation as wife and mother so that I can cooperate fully with God in my vocation.
I have been saddened by books by good Catholic authors, but they seem to be folks who have children sleeping through the night soon after birth, a modern common parenting theme. This seemed to influence their parenting advice which I didn’t feel fully comfortable with. In my continued research regarding my vocation I was excited to come across works on Theology of the Body and felt this should also be explored with regards to breastfeeding.
I began to read some articles on this theology and ran across a stumbling block that caused me to research more. But after tears and frantic research, I pulled out Breastfeeding and Catholic Motherhood again and here Sheila so eloquently put into words all that God had led my heart to in my search to resolve this issue. And it seems to boil down to this: that an interpretation of the Theology of the Body which is not applied to Ecological Breastfeeding is certainly incomplete.
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What every woman, man, and Catholic bishop and priest need to know about God’s plan for spacing babies.

Breastfeeding is God’s plan for the nurturing and nourishing the baby.

Breastfeeding protects the baby from certain diseases.  If baby gets sick, it is usually milder with breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding protects the mother from certain diseases.

Mother and baby are one biological unit during pregnancy and also during breastfeeding.  Like pregnancy, the breastfeeding keeps the mother with her baby.

The Church promotes systematic NFP through its many programs.  The Church should also promote the natural spacing of births with ecological breastfeeding.  This is the preferred method for couples to space their babies.  Unlike systematic NFP, you do not need a serious reason to use this most natural family planning method which usually requires little or no abstinence.  It’s a win-win-win-win situation with so many benefits involved for the mother and baby, for society, and for the Church.  And it’s following God’s plan!  What are we waiting for?  Let’s get the message out there!
Sheila Kippley